Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Online Dating for Guys: It's Easier Than You Think

Image

Am I some ridiculously handsome guy that makes lots of money? Hell naw. If you're a reasonably attractive guy in a decent sized city and you have awful luck with women there's a chance your personality is actually what's turning women off. Here are some things you're probably doing wrong:

Profile Red Flags
  • Saying ANYTHING negative about dating: It sucks for everybody. Get over it. Women want guys who are positive. Being a whiner will never attract women.
  • Writing excessively about what you want in a woman: The point of a profile is for women to learn about you as a person, not what "expectations" that they have to live up to.
  • Writing a long arse profile and expecting women to read it: Sorry not sorry, women know they're hot shit on the internet. They can just go to the next guy who isn't writing a novel.
Messaging Red Flags
  • You mention anything sexual in your first message: You may get away with it with SOME girls but most of them won't even respond to you. Don't do it, not even an off-color joke. Honestly, I would wait until you have her number to even go there at all.
  • You ask for her number way too soon: Some women like it when you ask for their number right away, but I would have to say the majority want to make sure you're not a pervert/stalker/won't drunk dial them all the time. There are signs when a girl actually WANTS to give you her number: (1)She becomes more engaged and contributes more to the conversation (2)She starts answering your messages faster (3)You're making her laugh...
Image
  • You're boring: Women like charm. Making a woman laugh is an easy way to get their attention and successfully keeping it. I'm not talking about quoting random funny things that I googled during the conversation, but genuine humor based on their profile and the conversation.
  • You give up when it gets awkward: It seems like it takes a little bit of time for most women to warm up to you so don't give up just because their responses are short.

The most valuable information I can give is that NICE GUYS DON'T FINISH LAST, EVER. If you're hiding behind that then there's a good chance you're blaming women for your personal issues, lack personality, or suck at identifying attractive women that are actually interested in you. You can get women interested in you without resorting to stupid pick-up artist techniques or being a jerk.

No comments:

Post a Comment